2008 Woodie Awards
Theory on why men cheat
Lily Fahel
Issue date: 3/21/07 Section: Opinion
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I've always wondered why men who have beautiful, sexy, caring, loving, kind, nurturing wives or girlfriends who would do anything for them, would ruin a great thing by cheating.
I never fully understood the concept, "It was just sex. It meant nothing."
Guess what ladies? It's not just sex, and it did mean something. In fact, it meant a whole lot more than you think.
After thoroughly dissecting the issue and succumbing to endless hours, days and nights of deep thought and contemplation of what the real reasons are as to why men cheat.
I finally broke through and discovered it doesn't have as much to do with the sexual act itself as most women would presume; in fact, it's often not physical at all.
The roots and origins of why men commit infidelity are emotional and psychological factors such as low self-esteem, feelings of inadequacy, feeling neglected, unappreciated, or not validated, and many times it's a cry for attention and done on impulse.
Women tend to question themselves--Was I not pretty enough? Was I not good in bed? Does he not love me anymore?
More often than not, when a man cheats on his wife or girlfriend, it's with a less attractive woman.
Men don't necessarily look for prettier women or women who are more sexually inclined.
They look for women who expect little or nothing, who are pleased with a minimum.
The less a woman expects from a man, the less pressure and the less he feels put down because of his assumed failures to provide.
Stop questioning yourselves and start questioning the circumstances. Good men, who love their wives very much, cheat.
What women don't take into account is that at one point or another, cheating will cross a man's mind.
Most men think about it and are tempted to do it all the time, but the thought becomes more serious and possibly even a reality once the woman becomes negligent, not as attentive as she used to be, busy with kids, work or the everyday burdens of life.
Many of you would find it interesting to know that while men pride themselves on being the stronger and more practical sex, they pout and cry for attention once they feel like they are last on a list of priorities.
I never fully understood the concept, "It was just sex. It meant nothing."
Guess what ladies? It's not just sex, and it did mean something. In fact, it meant a whole lot more than you think.
After thoroughly dissecting the issue and succumbing to endless hours, days and nights of deep thought and contemplation of what the real reasons are as to why men cheat.
I finally broke through and discovered it doesn't have as much to do with the sexual act itself as most women would presume; in fact, it's often not physical at all.
The roots and origins of why men commit infidelity are emotional and psychological factors such as low self-esteem, feelings of inadequacy, feeling neglected, unappreciated, or not validated, and many times it's a cry for attention and done on impulse.
Women tend to question themselves--Was I not pretty enough? Was I not good in bed? Does he not love me anymore?
More often than not, when a man cheats on his wife or girlfriend, it's with a less attractive woman.
Men don't necessarily look for prettier women or women who are more sexually inclined.
They look for women who expect little or nothing, who are pleased with a minimum.
The less a woman expects from a man, the less pressure and the less he feels put down because of his assumed failures to provide.
Stop questioning yourselves and start questioning the circumstances. Good men, who love their wives very much, cheat.
What women don't take into account is that at one point or another, cheating will cross a man's mind.
Most men think about it and are tempted to do it all the time, but the thought becomes more serious and possibly even a reality once the woman becomes negligent, not as attentive as she used to be, busy with kids, work or the everyday burdens of life.
Many of you would find it interesting to know that while men pride themselves on being the stronger and more practical sex, they pout and cry for attention once they feel like they are last on a list of priorities.
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